British dating habits
The traditions and wedding styles largely depends on which area of Turkey the couple originates.One friend working in tourism returned to his village, to follow up a potential match arranged by his mother.This is where you have to be careful as many people assume arranged and forced marriage to be the same thing. My husband’s sister was identified as a potential bride for one young man living in the same town.After family discussions about his ability to provide as a father and husband, my husband’s sister said yes to the marriage. She never had to complete the walk of shame in the early hours of the morning.The father would then asses the suitor’s financial position and the ability to provide for his daughter and the children that would be born so soon after the wedding.I was truly shocked and over the next five years would hear of many other regional traditions.
In rural parts of Turkey, a huge difference is whether the girl is a virgin or not, hence you will not see her in any bars, as rumors will start about her virgin status.
The ladette era of the 90’s prompted females to demand independence and if they wanted to have a one night stand and walk away in the morning, they were going to do it, whether their public reputation was tarnished or not.
Therefore, when I moved to Turkey, I was in for a shock, especially when it came to the dating scene.
It was a sign that his daughter was ready for marriage.
Any man who could knock the milk bottle off the roof could ask for the daughters hand in marriage.